It was an all-American scene to be sure, but not your typical 4th weekend of July family sporting event.
Between the catered boxes of chicken curry and the booming Punjabi music, the recent weekend tournament in West Haven, Connecticut had the feeling of a big Indian family reunion.
The sport was cricket — and the vast majority of the families, easily 95 percent, were South Asian.
To explain a little — and generalize a lot — Indians LOVE cricket. The game is "part and parcel of what India is all about," according to Dr. Prasad Srinivasan, an allergist and Connecticut State Representative who spoke at the opening of the tournament. Southern Connecticut is home to a sizable South Asian community, and it's cricket-loving region — the Cricket Hall of Fame is in Hartford. "Cricket is taking such a firm foundation in our nation," Dr. Srinivasan told the crowd, "and I'm very thankful to all of you, I'm so glad cricket has found its home in the United States."
I was here along with my 11-year-old son Arjun, representing the Lexington Cricket League from Massachusetts. And we were feeling a little intimidated. This was LCL's first tournament which meant using a traditional, hard, leather ball. Our kids had been playing with the softer youth ball, which resembles a heavy tennis ball. They'd had less than two weeks to practice batting and bowling (the cricket equivalent to pitching) with the hard ball. Outfielders in cricket have to catch it bare handed. "It hurts," said Nu Shaheer, correcting himself that "it doesn't hurt that much, but it hurts when you're scared"— a tough paradox for a kid, that you have to relax to avoid pain.
Vivek Gupta started the Lexington Cricket League a few years ago. Like a lot of the dads I've met through youth cricket, he came to this country with a passion for the game, and wanted to share that with his son, Vihan. A few years ago Vivek took him and a few friends to a local park to teach them the game. "Vihan got four, five of his friends, we were playing and suddenly we start seeing some kids walking in, trickling in and we're looking at where did [they] come from?" He laughs, "some Indian parents just dropped their kids and went away. So, okay, since you're here let's start playing! And that started growing, more started coming." With enough kids, Gupta got organized.
A few years after that pickup game started the Lexington Cricket League, our team was organized — but terribly overmatched. The rest of the teams playing at the tournament in Connecticut had a lot of experience playing hard ball, and we were facing national champions. "It felt kind of nerve wracking like when I was batting," said Sohum Atnoor. When you're batting in cricket, you're not just trying to hit the ball, but keep it from knocking down a set of wooden stumps behind you. It took a lot of concentration. "It was just—" deep breath—"Ok, hit the ball and don't let it hit your wickets." But for the first time, our kids were batting against bowlers who knew how to spin that ball, so it could bounce around the batter and knock down those stumps. That's exactly what happened to my son on his first pitch—he was out before he knew what happened. The rest of our batsmen went down in similar fashion. It was brutal. Dads were drying tears on the sidelines.
But after that first game, things turned around for the kids. Not in terms of winning — we lost every game we played in the tournament. But they did improve a lot, and understanding they were playing the best seemed to give them permission to have a good time with each other while losing. "I feel like we were having fun," said Atnoor. "It didn't really matter what happened. This is our first tournament. It's supposed to be like a team bonding thing. And I get to make some good friends with the people I was around."
The same was true for the parents. It's not just the love of cricket that's brought us together. I didn't really have a love for the game myself—I played it a few times as a kid, and it was pretty absent from my life in America. But there's a deep draw to connecting with other people of South Asian descent, desis we call ourselves. "We feel good when we connect with other people of our community," says Gupta. "So that's this one avenue for a whole bunch of families to come together."
But as good as it feels for us desis, Gupta and other organizers aren't happy with the idea of cricket in the U.S. just being a Desi thing. For one thing, what about the immigrants from all those other cricket-loving countries? "We've not been able to do a good job of sort of communicating to them that yes, we are [organizing this] sport for the children." Gupta wants to do a better job to reaching out to immigrants from countries like Britain and New Zealand, as well as African and Caribbean Countries. But even that won't be enough. The ultimate goal is to get all kids as excited about the game as this group, and establish cricket as a mainstream, all-American sport.